A lot to learn about my parenting style

I am really trying to figure how to handle a ten year old fits and anger.  It amazes me how calm my husband is and I am the one that gets ticked off and then makes things worse.  My hubby gave me some sound advice and the funny thing is...it's the same things that I do to him when he is throwing his fits..funny and yes, it finally clicked.  Big breath and just removing myself from the situation..and guess what? That is what I taught in my parenting classes all those years...really...I don't know about myself. I think I need to take some time to think and ponder more often. Time for me. Looking back just over this last month, I have not had a chance to even breathe...my goal is that I leave for at least a half hour every week to do what mi want to do and take that time to ponder and think of ways for improvement.  Done deal!