A lot to learn about my parenting style

I am really trying to figure how to handle a ten year old fits and anger.  It amazes me how calm my husband is and I am the one that gets ticked off and then makes things worse.  My hubby gave me some sound advice and the funny thing is...it's the same things that I do to him when he is throwing his fits..funny and yes, it finally clicked.  Big breath and just removing myself from the situation..and guess what? That is what I taught in my parenting classes all those years...really...I don't know about myself. I think I need to take some time to think and ponder more often. Time for me. Looking back just over this last month, I have not had a chance to even breathe...my goal is that I leave for at least a half hour every week to do what mi want to do and take that time to ponder and think of ways for improvement.  Done deal!

Old tv shows and what we learn from them

I am sitting downstairs and tam is in bed....dale has gun smoke on the big screen.  He is so in love with these shows. He is starting to talk in his southern accent and telling me that by these tv shows he has learned to ride a horse, hate snakes, learn true grit...I am laughing my hiney off. He really cracks me up sometime.  Like you can learn how to ride a horse on tv...really? Really love my hubbinesss.

Update

Things have been going well. It is a real learning process for sure. Dale is getting ready to retire. It is a big change for our family. He is still really young and will still need to be employed.   He is really worried that it may take a while for him to get a job in this economy. I pray everyday that the right job will appear. I know it is a matter of being patient.  It's still a rough process. dale and I have been called to scouts.  I am really excited and happy that dale and I are holding a calling together.  It will require a lot of work however we only have one scout at this time. I am happy to spend more time with him and doing boy things.

Deep breathes

Lately I have learned that taking deep breathes is all I can do.  Having a ten year old in our life has really tested my patients. The pre teens are upon us and so is the attitude.  It has been quite a ride that is for sure. I hope that it will get easier, however not sure that is going to happen. Taking deep breathes and slowly exhale and repeating..relax seems to really help me think before I speak. I find that is my best way to settle the battle.  Don't get me wrong, I love being a mom, and I would not trade it.  There are just times I wish I could take a timeout and relax before I respond to her.  One day at a time. Wow..can u tell its been a long day today..?

Flying off the handle...hum..

Have you ever noticed that some people fly off the handle when you ask a simple question and it becomes this crazy thing.  That happened today when my coworker asked a simple question and this person stood up coming unglued.  Sometimes people need to just need to take a chill pill and relax. I don't think enough people realize that life is way to short to get in a huff.  This year has been a rough year for me.  I love the end product, however it has really changed my prospective on what to get upset about.  We all have our bad moments..believe me I have had my share and I am not perfect.  I just want the world to stop and be greatful for what they have, whether it be lots or small.  Then choose to take a brief moment to stop and think, then move on.
Easier said than done, I understand.  Take a challenge and see how life is.  I find myself relaxed a lot more and easing through life with less turmoil.  By the way how are things going with the thank you cards...take the challenge to thank a person once a week by mailing a card. It will not only make a difference their life but yours also.

Dream weaver hit me again

Dreams have always been interesting to me.  Sometime I have really scared dreams and then there are times like last night that were scarey   and funny.  Tam and I were living in a very high security fifty story building and there were people who were trying to kill us. Dale was always teaching us how to defeat the enemy. He was sent out on a mission and we were left on our own. Tam and I were successful in beating down the enemy and everyone was congratulating us and we had made this chocolate statue of Tom cruise and he heard about it. He was in the building and wanted to meet with us,we were so excited.  We were looking down the fifty stairs and waiting for him to arrive..all of a sudden there was a pulley thing and a box with a miniature Tom cruise in it..weird!

I promised

Ok I promised I would keep my blog updated and I will do at least a small post per day or week. I have been thinking a lot lately about being and remaining positive. It seems so hard for today's population. On the news you hear one positive and then all this negative.  This  world may be so much better off if we started thinking about the positive and not the negative. It's election time and all you hear is about the bad a person has done..my question to that if everyone is not perfect, and that is why we are here on this earth...how do you expect the person running for office to be perfect and make all the right decisions all the time. Can't please everyone, that is a different topic and won't go there.  All I am saying is how nice would it be to bring back positivity and thinking the good in people and not the bad or negative.

I really try to be a positive person, I pride myself on my ability to think on the bright side. Don't get me wrong, I have my moments.  I heard about this book called a thank you card everyday. This guy was having a rough life and decided to hand thank you cards out to random people 365 days. He said not only did that make a huge difference in his life but others.  I have tried to do a thank you card once a week or more if I could. It has increased my positivity and brought me closer to my customers and coworkers. I just wanted to have my say. I believe we all have freedom of choice and I feel that we all need to start being more positive with that freedom.  Enough said. Have a great night and thank you for reading.  Please feel free to leave comments..remember to be positive..

Finally!

I now have a computer of sorts to do my blogging and I have so to talk about.  Isolde my motorcycle and bought an iPad. Lil sad about no motorcycle hower I really excited to start blogging because life has been busy, frustrating and wonderful.  So I will try to do the best I can to update and add pictures later.

Time Passes Quickly

I just realized that it has been a month since I made my resolve to blog more often. Stay tune to our cruise, Dale's graduation, our trip to Washington State to send the troops off and our little Kitten who is now a 10 pound 7 month old kitten... stay tune for more!!! promise...

Finally

I think I am ready to start writing in my blog. I will try to post something starting once a week. I have a whole lot to catch up with and not sure I will get there to it all however I am going to give it the ole' cowgirl try. So until then...

Weird Dream

I rarely dream and when I do its really vivid and strange. This dream was vivid and humerous, so I just had to share.

The dream went like this.... dale had bought a hummer from the military. Dale thought that was a great way to teach my sister Maren how to drive stick. We gathered up mar and her husband and myself and dale to go out to the desert. dale hopped into the hummer with mar and they took off for a lesson. They came back and mar was all excited because she was doing such a good job at it. dale said it was time she could take it down the road a little. mar drove off by herself and all of a sudden we saw the hummer fall off the edge of the cliff... We all ran over to see if she was ok and looked down the cliff and saw her standing there looking at the little pieces of the hummer around her. apparently when she drove off the cliff, the hummer broke into such small pieces. dale was like... you broke my hummer and now you and debbie are in timeout and told us to go stay in the hotel and not to come out for 2 hours. dale and mikey went to their own room with all the pieces of the hummer. i walked into their room and was watching them put the pieces together... it was so funny i woke up laughing.....

Happy Anniversary to the one I love!

On September 11th 2003 I married my friend and love of my life. It has been a marriage with lots of battles and good times. I love my husband more today than I ever did back when I married him. I think that is what marriage and troubles do is it makes you bond closer. Dale is the most kind and caring husband. There is not a week that goes by without him calling me his angel or telling me that he is doing everything he can so that I won't have to work, because I deserve it. Our life is about to change with getting a foster daughter, however we are bonding more because of it and our life will become better.

I know this post is not something that you normally see, however I wanted put this in writing for my records. Happy Anniversary Baby! Love you PUP!

ok..i know...i need to update...

update...on life...

Wow!!! life has a way of passing by and fast. Our family has been going through a lot lately. Mary, my sister in law. She was diagnosed with breast cancer and a lot of thought and prayers has been going in her behalf. She had a mastecomy and is going to be starting chemo soon. I believe that things will be going really well and she will beat this thing. I am amazed how this cancer word sends sharp pains into every soul. Our family has been hit hard in the last few years, but our family is strong and we will make it over this.

As for Dale and I. We are getting ready to do a foster adopt little girl. We have this room ready and it just seems the thing we need to do. Call it inspiration, or craziness it is what we are doing. It will be a challenge and we are trying to figure out the child care thing. That in itself is a hard thing. It will be good and we will grow stronger as a family for sure.

I have so much to blog and am hoping to start updating my blog... my guess I will start this weekend.